just wondering

i wonder why most men don't really appreciate the little things that you do for them. By the time they noticed it, it's already too late. There might have been an argument over the most trivial of things which most probably stemmed out from the lack of one simple word or gesture of appreciation. A nice "thank you" would've been good enough. Naturally, you feel crushed that none of your efforts were noticed. Seeing to it that all his needs were met doesn't mean your partner has to neglect expressing his appreciation or gratitude. I mean, who keeps his things at home tidy and in order? You make sure that he wouldn't have any difficulty locating his things. No dirty shirts lying around, shoes strewn about, important files missing, etc. You don't want to give him a headache when he gets home right? And yet, they tend to overlook these things.

Now I know why there are nagging housewives out there. It makes perfect sense. If you tell your significant other to take out the trash, the message wouldn't register the first time. He wouldn't dare budge. He hears you alright but he tends to procrastinate. But if you repeat what you said over and over again, until his brain finally catches up & puts him into motion, that's the only time you're going to see a result. If I'm not mistaken, this concept is actually derived from John Gray's bestseller book, "Women are from Mars, Men are from Venus"--- ooops! It's the other way around: "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". The explanation for this 'phenomena' is because men & women have different perspectives and thus have different views on doing things. Also, maybe because our society is so patriarchal and so archaic that these men when they were just little boys were just tolerated & given free reign to play around all day and just leave the domestic stuff to their mothers & their sisters which is pretty sexist really, if you ask me. Just because I'm a girl doesn't mean I'm only confined to the kitchen or the house. That's probably the reason why i never learned how to cook. I simply refused to believe that all little girls should slave around at home while they let their brothers roam free around the house.

I remember when I was growing up I was told by a relative (a spinster aunt) who lives with us that time that I should be the one to prepare meals for our brothers whenever our mother's not around because that's all little girls are trained to do, make sure the men in the house don't starve to death. The moment I heard her say that, I simply stormed out of the kitchen and locked myself in my room. I simply refuse to be typecast as such. For me, there are a million ways to prove your worth, and not just around the house.

This is what our society is actually made us believe, (or is it the matrix?). They condone the "annoying" habits of our men, whether they are drunkards, trigger-happy folks, womanizers or just a lazy bunch of freaks. Why do you think men like that exists? Maybe because out of habit, we have tolerated it since time immemorial. Maybe because most women are content with their domestic lives and are simply happy to be confined in the kitchen. Or maybe they think it's part of their married life, that they should just be grateful they have a husband at all. Our society thrives on double standards. If a guy sleeps around, he is considered a 'stud', but if a girl sleeps around, she is branded a 'slut'. Guess who suffers the stigma. How politically-incorrect. That's why I like the new breed of men these days, the metrosexuals. They are more sensitive and are more aware of their surroundings and just about happy to extend their contribution to humankind. Most of all, they are in touch with their feminine side which makes them more humane-- and attractive.