on swallowing the bitter pill: random thoughts on relationships gone sour

just because you have complete trust on your significant other doesn't give you license to neglect the relationship. This especially holds true when we talk about distant relationships. Anything can happen when you're apart. One of you might attempt to be with somebody else, not because you want to cheat but because you just miss being around with someone and so you try to emulate that with the first attractive person you meet. What's the point of keeping an eleven-year old relationship when you're apart from each other most of the time? You're just wasting your precious time. And don't give me that crap about emotional investments. It doesn't work that way, apparently.

That's what happened to the classmate of a friend. This classmate is a guy who works in the city (the big bad city, if you will). He left behind his girlfriend in the province. The guy found out recently that his long-time girlfriend just got hitched to another guy and left him hanging. This happened right under his nose! I don't know the entire story but I could only assume. This guy is trying desperately to rationalize that the only reason his girlfriend got married to another guy is because of money, or lack of it. The girl didn't actually came from the 'buena familia'.

Poor guy is completely heartbroken. He was so clueless something was going on with his sweet girlfriend. I told my friend that there's nothing we can do about it now. The best thing he could do is to accept the fact and just learn to let go. Life goes on. Emotional investment down the drain.

Trust isn't the only thing that would make the relationship smooth-sailing. Nurturing the relationship is always good, coupled with TLC. It is important to remember that the actual presence of your boyfriend would matter a lot in a relationship, and not a photo saved on your mobile phone, nor a ghost, nor a replica of himself. Certainly not the pillow that you hug at night ...